In another lifetime I used to feel victim to the vagaries of Love, to the way it could sweep me up with as much ease and detachment as it could pummel me against the raggedness of cliffs, leaving me torn, open, gasping for air. I did not understand the Art of Love,...

A "fata morgana" (the Italian translation of Morgan Le Fay, the fairy shape-shifting half-sister of King Arthur) is a mirage. It's an optical illusion that results from temperature inversion. It's the illusion that objects in your horizon - whether it be ships,...

I want I choose I claim I am Each of these statements indicate where you are in process and in #relationship to your desire. “I want” implies a lack, the absence for a thing wanted.  You don’t have it yet. “I choose” is a selection after consideration, a decision...

Since the 1980’s, when Jane Fonda and Jamie Lee Curtis made aerobics a “thing,” you could find me in a group class, dancing to the beat.  Walking through the gym, I would spot trainers with their clients on the machines.   I never thought that kind...

I used to crave approval. Believing that the way to happiness was paved with people pleasing, compromise, and giving into what others wished, I was the best "no waves" maker on the planet. Twisting into unrecognizable pretzels I would ensure the outcome of situations...

Relationships function as a conduit for both manifesting creativity and for mirroring the extent to which we have the capacity to express love. If you find yourself seeking deeper intimacy, noticing a pattern of attracting experiences that lack in this regard, it's...

January 1st and they’re off! The energy of resolutions is as palpable as the gates opening on racetrack horses at the sound of a gun. I don’t know about you, but personally, I’m done with racing into a new year.  Having spent the last few weeks in quiet,...

In my parent's living room, there used to be a set of Matryoshka or nesting dolls. As a child, I remember unpacking them, one by one, and putting them together, separately: from the largest to the tiniest (my absolute favorite one), all dressed in the same way - as...

You cannot selectively numb out emotions. When you numb out pain, you also numb out joy. The process of readying for love and intimacy demands that you feel every single emotion. Without judgment, allow it to pass through. Our culture does not make room for the full...

When a friend recently complained about their sister in law’s unreliability, she engaged in an offensive weapons approach to get the relationship back on track: criticism and contempt. Criticism: “She said she would call me back but didn’t” (complaint about her...