Since the 1980’s, when Jane Fonda and Jamie Lee Curtis made aerobics a “thing,” you could find me in a group class, dancing to the beat.  Walking through the gym, I would spot trainers with their clients on the machines.   I never thought that kind...

The relationship I have with my husband is unusual. When we first started dating there was very little about it that felt familiar in the sense that it did not resemble anything either of us has experienced before. From the onset, we chose to co create an expectation...

There once was a snail making its way up a cherry tree in the middle of winter. From a branch above, a bird saw it slowly moving up the grey cold bark and said, "You know, there are no cherries up on those branches."  Without missing a beat, the snail responded,...

After sharing their relationship struggles, a new client asked why they hadn't found the perfect partner.  My answer was simple: "You are not yet the person your ideal partner could locate right now." You only receive who you are. Your dreams, your thoughts,...

When K. told me she struggled with an attraction to men, who, like her, were fiercely independent, intelligent, adventurous, interesting, and funny, but repelled by marriage and children, and only interested in sex, I shared this was a common issue.  In my...

“I’m currently struggling with the following: the men I find myself most attracted to are, like me, fiercely independent, intelligent, adventurous, interesting, passionate, and funny. Unlike me, the only interest they seem to have in a partner (me) is sexual. These...

Being in a relationship – be it collegial, romantic, or familial – means that you’ll experience moments where words need to be expressed and you choose to remain quiet.   An impasse. Time goes by and the situation, the things left unsaid live inside you,...

How do you make sense of the stories told about your father when he’s gone?  As one of our most influential models for relationships, our parents set us on the lifelong path for the ways we engage with others– be it romantic or otherwise – a path...

“1 or 2?”  “2 or 3?”  “3 or 4?” asked my eye doctor as she flicked each lens on the Phoropter at my recent checkup. (don’t be impressed.  I had to look up the name of the contraption.) Some of the lenses were so close, it was challenging...