I’m off to the UK today for my aunt’s funeral.  This is on the heels of unexpectedly losing my Father, her only sibling, in August and placing both my parents in a nursing home last April.  My mother is no longer compos mentis so that, too, feels a...

I stayed with my ex-husband for 16 years and my ex-boyfriend for 8. I taught K-12, undergraduate and graduate students for 32 years. I’ve had a coaching business for the last 12. There comes a moment where one decides to stay with it and persist and another moment...

Until 2016 I did not know I there was a nomenclature to my lived experience. I believed myself to be different, odd, out of step. In the '90's research on high sensitivity as an innate trait was made mainstream by Dr. Elaine Aron, determining that 20% of the global...

Sometimes, without any awareness of it, we move into this space in our relationships and our lives that is unrecognizable. In depth psychology, this place is referred to this as the Borderlands - it is that "in-between," that liminal place where one has left, and not...

In another lifetime I used to feel victim to the vagaries of Love, to the way it could sweep me up with as much ease and detachment as it could pummel me against the raggedness of cliffs, leaving me torn, open, gasping for air. I did not understand the Art of Love,...

A "fata morgana" (the Italian translation of Morgan Le Fay, the fairy shape-shifting half-sister of King Arthur) is a mirage. It's an optical illusion that results from temperature inversion. It's the illusion that objects in your horizon - whether it be ships,...

I want I choose I claim I am Each of these statements indicate where you are in process and in #relationship to your desire. “I want” implies a lack, the absence for a thing wanted.  You don’t have it yet. “I choose” is a selection after consideration, a decision...

Since the 1980’s, when Jane Fonda and Jamie Lee Curtis made aerobics a “thing,” you could find me in a group class, dancing to the beat.  Walking through the gym, I would spot trainers with their clients on the machines.   I never thought that kind...

I used to crave approval. Believing that the way to happiness was paved with people pleasing, compromise, and giving into what others wished, I was the best "no waves" maker on the planet. Twisting into unrecognizable pretzels I would ensure the outcome of situations...