The magical thing you’ve forgotten
As I prepare for the year ahead, I’m deeply steeped in the work of Internal Family Systems. My parents have agreed they no longer have the capacity to fully take care of themselves and need more support. Last week, I shared how the healing work you do regarding your...
Love is your decision in 2022
"Love is my decision. It's up to me to give of my heart. Love is my decision. No one else can tell me to start. And once I decide to change my mind, God will show me how. Love is my decision, My decision, right here and now."Daniel Nahmod As I contemplate stepping...
The Third Key to Love: Ongoing Growth
Once John (not his real name) found his match, he gave up working on himself. It showed up in forgetting to send in his prep form, texting last minute to cancel our calls and, altogether, giving off the vibe that the coaching process had lost its usefulness. In the...
Dating when you’re an independent woman
Julie (not her real name) had just discovered the man she’d been dating had a double life when she sought me for relationship support. He was seeing another woman simultaneously. This was not the first time Julie had found herself sucking on the fuzzy end of the...
Second Key to Love: Conscious Coupling
When Margaret found the lid to her pot, she had consciously put her relationship seeking on hold. Instead, she focused her attention into what made her happy, brought her pleasure, fed her. She was attending a charity event with a girlfriend when she met him. His...
The first key to Love: Readiness
“You’ll never find another who loves you as much as I do!” I screamed as he walked away. This was me, 13 years ago, desperately clinging onto the vestiges of my rapidly dissolving relationship. Although I'm not proud of that moment it was a landmark event that changed...
Looking for Love in a cancel culture
Love is addicting. You know, the butterflies, the sense of floating on air, everything looking just a little brighter... This is the part of Love that gets us hooked into the chasing after, all caution to the wind, the "happily ever after." (Cue romantic music and a...
Navigating relationships in a sea of change
"Leave now." "And what if I don't?" I questioned. "It's a matter of life and death." F*ck. This began a rollercoaster ride whose outcome blew me away. The words hadn't come to me so much as they'd come through me. Before you click away thinking me fit for the loony...
Stand true in these extraordinary times
My mother arranged my first photo session at age 14. Being a typical angsty teenager, she thought the attention would do me good. The experience stayed with me: not because I still have a copy of the black and white pictures, but because of how it felt to have...
The path to great relationships
I used to be a doormat. I made every relationship choice fueled by the core beliefs that I was: FlawedBrokenNot enough to be loved as is. That last one was a kicker. It meant that if my existence was not enough to satisfy another, then I needed to...