by Joelle | Nov 29, 2022 | Blog
You cannot selectively numb out emotions. When you numb out pain, you also numb out joy. The process of readying for love and intimacy demands that you feel every single emotion. Without judgment, allow it to pass through. Our culture does not make room for the full...
by Joelle | Nov 23, 2022 | Blog
When a friend recently complained about their sister in law’s unreliability, she engaged in an offensive weapons approach to get the relationship back on track: criticism and contempt. Criticism: “She said she would call me back but didn’t” (complaint about her...
by Joelle | Nov 15, 2022 | Blog
The relationship I have with my husband is unusual. When we first started dating there was very little about it that felt familiar in the sense that it did not resemble anything either of us has experienced before. From the onset, we chose to co create an expectation...
by Joelle | Nov 8, 2022 | Blog
There once was a snail making its way up a cherry tree in the middle of winter. From a branch above, a bird saw it slowly moving up the grey cold bark and said, “You know, there are no cherries up on those branches.” Without missing a beat, the snail...
by Joelle | Nov 3, 2022 | Blog
After sharing their relationship struggles, a new client asked why they hadn’t found the perfect partner. My answer was simple: “You are not yet the person your ideal partner could locate right now.” You only receive who you are. Your dreams,...
by Joelle | Oct 27, 2022 | Blog
When K. told me she struggled with an attraction to men, who, like her, were fiercely independent, intelligent, adventurous, interesting, and funny, but repelled by marriage and children, and only interested in sex, I shared this was a common issue. In my...
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