Becoming a relationship coach was a soul-driven mission.
My journey was shaped by a relentless curiosity about love, connection, and human transformation.
But I didn’t arrive here alone.
Throughout the years, I’ve immersed myself in the wisdom of powerful teachers, transformative books, and embodied practices that continue to shape my coaching approach. These tools and resources have been instrumental in my work—and in the success of my clients.
1. Teachers Who Lit the Way
Every great coach stands on the shoulders of those who came before. Some of the most profound influences on my work include:
🔹 Dr. Stan Tatkin – His work on attachment science and nervous system regulation in relationships has deeply influenced how I help couples build secure, lasting connections.
🔹 Dr. Esther Perel – Her exploration of desire, erotic intelligence, and the delicate dance between intimacy and independence has shaped my understanding of long-term passion. If you haven’t read Mating in Captivity, it’s time.
🔹 Mama Gena (Regena Thomashauer) – The queen of pleasure, power, and feminine radiance. Her work transformed the way I view feminine energy, sensuality, and self-worth—essential elements of thriving relationships.
🔹 Kasia Urbaniak – A former Taoist nun and professional dominatrix, Kasia’s teachings on power dynamics and communication have profoundly influenced how I help clients reclaim their voice.
🔹 Brené Brown – Vulnerability is at the heart of love, and Brené’s research has been a guiding force in my coaching. Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection are essential reads.
🔹 Annie Lalla – A master of emotional alchemy, Annie’s insights on turning conflict into deeper intimacy have enriched my coaching philosophy.
🔹 Julia Cameron – Creativity is a bridge to self-awareness and deeper connection. Her book The Artist’s Way has been a foundational resource for integrating art into my work.
🔹Heather Dominick– The creator of Highly Sensitive Leadership, Heather’s work has been invaluable in understanding how sensitivity can be a strength, not a hindrance, in relationships and business. Her approach has helped me guide clients in embracing their intuitive depth while setting powerful boundaries.
2. Books That Changed the Game
Books have always been my trusted companions in understanding relationships, personal growth, and the art of transformation. Some that I return to again and again include:
=> Attached by Dr. Amir Levine & Rachel Heller – A foundational book on attachment styles and how they shape our relationships.
=> Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson – The power of emotionally focused therapy and how love can heal.
=> The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman – A simple yet profound approach to understanding how we give and receive love.
=> Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski – Essential reading for understanding female desire and intimacy.
=> The War of Art by Steven Pressfield – A must-read for anyone creating (whether it’s art, a relationship, or a business).
=> Pussy: A Reclamation by Mama Gena – A groundbreaking book on reclaiming pleasure, power, and feminine confidence.
=> Unbound: A Woman’s Guide to Power by Kasia Urbaniak – A revolutionary guide to breaking free from people-pleasing and stepping into true personal authority.
3. The Practices That Built My Approach
Beyond knowledge, true transformation happens through practice. Here are some key tools I’ve incorporated into my own life and coaching:
=> Expressive Arts Therapy and Intentional Creativity– Using painting, writing, and movement as a way to access deep emotional truths.
=> Somatic Work & Nervous System Regulation – Helping clients move beyond logic and into embodied wisdom.
=> Nonviolent Communication (NVC) – A framework for compassionate, clear, and connection-driven conversations.
=> Mindfulness & Embodiment Practices – Because true relational intimacy starts with self-awareness.
=> Pleasure as Power – One of the many principles I learned from Mama Gena—when we connect to our pleasure and joy, we bring a different energy into relationships, creativity, and life.
=> Power & Influence Training – Inspired by Kasia Urbaniak’s work, I help clients recognize and shift the power dynamics in their relationships, unlocking a new level of confidence and self-expression.
4. Investing in Mentorship & Growth
One of the best decisions I’ve made is investing in my own coaches and mentors.
Working with master teachers has accelerated my growth, both personally and professionally. And I commit to working with them long term- on average 8-10 years. That’s how deeply I believe in the power of support and accountability.
f you’re serious about transforming your relationships, don’t go it alone—find someone who can guide you.
This journey isn’t just about me—it’s about all of us learning, evolving, and creating love that lasts.
If you’re ready to dive deeper, explore how we can work together [here].