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Is Your Muchness not so Much?

alice_in_wonderland17“‎You’re not the same as you were before,” he said. You were much more… muchier… you’ve lost your muchness. – Mad Hatter, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland (2010)

 If you are waking up feeling the world is rather bland, that taste has somewhat lost its flavor or that color has lost its brilliance, you may have lost your “muchness.”

Merriam-Webster defines “muchness” as the quality or state of being in great quantity, extent or degree.

In Tim Burton’s 2010 version of Alice in Wonderland, the Mad Hatter tells Alice that she used to be much muchier, and that she seemed to have lost it.  What he was implying was that she had lost her true essence.

Ever feel that way?

As if somehow, somewhere along the way your muchness was sacrificed at the altar of doing what was expected of you: choosing a certain career, partnering with a certain kind of person, having the house/kid/dog/picket fence…. Rather than choosing what was right for you?  You chose to “fit in” rather than “belong?”

Before reading Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection (2010), I thought both belonging and fitting in were synonimous with one another.  I did not know there was a difference.  Brown makes a distinction:

“Fitting in and belonging are not the same thing, and, in fact, fitting in gets in the way of belonging.  Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be to be accepted.  Belonging on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.” 

In our hustle for worthiness, we choose to fit in, rather than belong and in so doing, ditch our Muchness away….

It is perfectly normal not to be the same person we were as children.  It is not okay to wander away from your muchness, as Alice was accused of – yet so many of us get seduced into the morass of “obligation” because it is easier to adjust to what others expect of us, rather than have the audacity to be authentic and true and live our lives fueled by our muchness.

Have you…

  1. Forgotten what brings you joy and pleasure?
  2. Stopped doing what you love?
  3. Lost sight of simplicity in exchange for busy-ness so that your life is SO crammed with good stuff, the good is not so good anymore?
  4. Been living the expected rather than a life that counts?

If so , you may have lost your muchness.  Time to claim it back!

I would love to hear from you!  What is “muchness” for you?  What can you do to be more “muchier” in your life starting today?  Share with us – we love your comments!



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