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Don’t believe what the Sentinels say…

Posted by on Oct 18th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 0 comments

Don’t believe what the Sentinels say…

  Me: You can find me at a table upstairs. Cashier: There are only two of them.  Don’t bother.  They’re always full. Me: (ignoring cashier’s warning)  Thanks.  I’ll be upstairs. ….I walk up to find myself the best table there, with a perfect view of the Sunday morning coffee shop band: The Brian Bundige Trio. If there is one thing I have learned in my time on this earth it is this: Don’t believe the Sentinels.   You can see them everywhere: on the television news, advertisements, political...

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Create a Covenant of Trust

Posted by on Apr 27th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 5 comments

Create a Covenant of Trust

A few weeks back, my man came over after his soccer practice.  The moment he entered my home, I could tell he was in a mood.  Typically we have connection instantly upon seeing one another.  That particular evening it was unavailable. As we sat on the sofa in my living room, I listened deeply as he shared his heart, his doubts and the questions he was struggling with.  I kept my silence, remaining open as he spoke.  We sat that way a long time while he took the time he needed to “clean house.”  Finally, we held one another:  I,...

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How to stop eating at the Mc D Love Shack

Posted by on Apr 10th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 0 comments

How to stop eating at the Mc D Love Shack

“When you are no longer willing to identify with the part of you that is separating into a million pieces, you are ready for real growth.”  ~ Michael Singer, author of The Untethered Soul A few months ago, I spent a day with five courageous women who were looking to make change in their relationships with men.  They came for solutions, practical tips, tools they could learn and implement and use straightaway.  They were seeking to solve their relationships struggles.  They wanted a quick fix.  Something to alleviate the...

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Saying “I do” almost killed me

Posted by on Mar 24th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 25 comments

Saying “I do” almost killed me

    No one suspected a thing as I walked down the steps toward the Chuppah that hot Sunday afternoon in August. The guests sat beneath the Japanese Maple listening to the Windham Hill music I had compiled on cassette for the occasion.  I had already sent out my maid of honor and my fiancé awaited me.  Inside, as the song I had specifically chosen to walk out to played on, I collapsed into my brother’s arms, crying, my body wracking uncontrollably as I tried to regain control.  Beside me, I could hear him repeat, ...

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The Secret to Finding True Love

Posted by on Mar 15th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 2 comments

The Secret to Finding True Love

  “The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible.” Oscar Wilde I attended a transformational week-end in NYC with my man, my mentor and my community of Sisters.  It was the sort of experience one walks away from changed at a cellular level. One of those levels for me was in dropping into a deeper sense of abiding love. I used to believe that the way to a man’s heart was to become that which I thought he was looking for. How this would translate was that, early on, I would feel the need to take...

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How I got my mojo back

Posted by on Mar 4th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 6 comments

How I got my mojo back

On Valentine’s Day my man took me to a masquerade ball event.  Everyone was dressed to the nines.  All wore masks.  In fact, they were required. There were performance artists, burlesque dancers, a jester, and a mysterious writer who would throughout the evening call couples upstairs to chat with her. It was all very secretive. And, aside from the burlesque dancers, I wore the least amount of clothing in the crowd. It felt both risky and powerful, sexy and unnerving, but mostly, it felt liberating to embody someone completely...

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Jealous? Nah… Didn’t think so

Posted by on Feb 26th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 9 comments

  I have a confession. Actually, I’m a little embarrassed about it… being a relationship coach and all. I found myself in a sticky, jealous spot this week. Jealous of a friend’s relationship with her husband. You must understand, the relationship I share with my man is the most mature, respectful, sexy, vulnerable and exciting relationship I have ever been in. So why was I jealous? Click below to find out:   Your Soulwork for this week is to share, in the comments below, an experience of envy or jealousy and the...

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Are You His Mommy or His Lover? (Tips for People Pleasers)

Posted by on Feb 15th, 2015 in Discover Your Strengths | 3 comments

Are You His Mommy or His Lover? (Tips for People Pleasers)

I am a reformed people pleaser.  Ok, I admittedly, still, on occasion, fall prey to it’s seductive grip.  Old habits die hard… People pleasing is alluring, addictive – it’s the kind of behaviour that is deemed admirable, one that has us believe it would surely win lovers, friends and respect. The truth is, whether you are dating or married, your inner “Gloria Goody Two Shoes” may, unknowingly, be killing your relationship with your man.  Worse yet, this aspect of you is keeping you from the full expression of...

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My “Ideal Man” List had some issues….

Posted by on Nov 14th, 2014 in Discover Your Strengths | 4 comments

My “Ideal Man” List had some issues….

I never dreamed I would be in the kind of relationship I have today.  In fact, 13 years ago, after my divorce, I sat down to make a list of what I was looking for in a man.  Here’s what I found in my journal dated May 30th, 2001: Intelligence Master’s degree Focused Height (my ex is 5’3 – I am 5’6) Able to listen Humor Passion Good looks Likes to touch Has expensive taste Is generous with his gifts Employed and ambitious (wearing a suit was important to me) Well traveled Healthy Open minded An alternative...

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Saying “I do” for the second time

Posted by on Nov 6th, 2014 in Discover Your Strengths | 1 comment

Saying “I do” for the second time

“Between the stimulus and response, there is a space and in that space lie your power and freedom.” Victor Frankl On my last post, I wrote on the topic of trust.  More specifically, I shared the radical notion that the less you trust, the more signs you tend to miss, the greater the chances for choosing a partner that may not be right for you. I also shared that your thought, “I don’t trust men”  could really fueled by the belief, “I don’t trust myself.”  I got no arguments on this idea....

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